Every year my wife and I have a New YearÂ’s Eve party. ItÂ’s been something weÂ’ve enjoyed hosting for years, and we have fun. We get to end the old year and start the new year with friends. For 6 years now, weÂ’ve invited pretty much the same friends every year. This year we are debating on even having the party.

I have “friends” I don’t want to hang around with anymore, so I don’t want to invite them. The problem is that we have mutual friends whom I’d like to invite to my house. I don’t want to put my friends in the middle of a situation that doesn’t involve them. In addition, I don’t want to stir up trouble with the people I no longer want to associate.

Then there are some new friends I’ve met/made that I would like to invite. I know I would enjoy their company more then my old “friends”. We just don’t have the room to have everyone over in our house. So obviously, someone would have to get cut from the list. Of course I’m leaning toward cutting the old “friends”. Again that brings up the problem of putting mutual friends in the middle of a situation that doesn’t directly involve them.

The mutual friend issue is causing the problem. ItÂ’s why I havenÂ’t told a couple of them that I no longer want them in my house or my life. So far, IÂ’ve done well in trying to avoid most of the undesirables since all this began. I still have one that contacts me or comes over at least once a month. I think they are beginning to get the hint however.

What to do? Have the party and actually drag mutual friends into the fray or just cancel the party in general. IÂ’ve already had a couple of inquiries regarding it as the invites are usually in the mail by the last week of November.

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