August 26, 2005
This exact scenario happened to me last night. I was waiting at the bus stop for Boopie to give him a ride home. As soon as I went to drive off, I saw these two boys off Boopie’s bus throw down their books in the middle of the road and start fighting. I put my vehicle in park, jump out of the door and head toward the boys. In my “I’m a pissed off authority figure voice” (Left over from Law Enforcement days) I holler: “You two, knock it off! Over here, NOW!” While saying that I’m pointing at both of them and then point to the ground right in front of me as I am walking toward them. Not once through this whole ordeal did I lay a finger on either boy.
Both of the boys stop fighting and start heading my way. They give me the story they where just play fighting. Any male out there that was ever in a fight as a kid can tell the difference between play fighting and real fighting. Play fighting you donÂ’t swing so hard as to throw yourself off balance, because you donÂ’t know how to fight. IÂ’m trying to get both kids to come with me to talk to their parents.
The older kid points to a house just across the street. So I tell him, lets go talk to his parents. Then he changes which house he lives in. Apparently, he didnÂ’t think I was serious. The younger kid told me he lived a couple of blocks over.
I knew there was no way to get both kids to stay with me, even though I tried. Deciding that I was going to talk to the bigger kids parents for a couple of reasons, I follow him to his house. I believe that the smaller kidÂ’s mother works with me and I can talk to her at work. Also he seemed scared witless and I think I did enough damage that one close call may be all he needs to go straight. The bigger kid coped an attitude and was blatantly lying to me. He also appeared to be the instigator. His parents needed to be advised.
Sure enough as soon as I started walking off with the older boy, the younger one took off. Ktreva saw which way he ran, we tried looking for him later but couldnÂ’t find him.
On the way to the bigger kidÂ’s house, the story changed from play fighting to him defending his country. Apparently, the boyÂ’s parents are from Russia and the younger kid made some disparaging comments about it. Now I have confirmation that it was not play fighting. When we get to his house, he goes in while I stay outside. I figured heÂ’d lock the door and IÂ’d have to ring the bell to talk to his mother or father.
After a couple of minutes, his mother comes to the door. After speaking to her briefly, and she did have an accent, I got the distinct impression that she didnÂ’t care that her little boy was fighting with a kid half his size or that he was fighting at all. Maybe I wasted my time, maybe not. Maybe she was just pissed and didnÂ’t want to say anything in front of me, which I can understand. If my kid were fighting, I would want someone to break it up and tell me what was going on. Maybe IÂ’m the last parent that feels that way. Then again, maybe IÂ’m the last adult that gives a shit about the future of our country anymore.
Let me tell you this, if I catch that kid fighting again I will have one more talk with him and his mother. Then IÂ’m going to the police about it. This little punk had bully written all over him from his attitude to his stance. Maybe if someone nips it in the bud now he can straighten out before he gets himself into serious trouble later on.
What really gets me about this situation is that there where other adults that saw this happen and live right there and they did nothing. Most of them just turned their backs or watched. That really pisses me off people! We wonder why our kids are becoming degenerates and delinquents, maybe itÂ’s because no one cares anymore. People will bitch about violence and sex in the media being the cause. Maybe itÂ’s apathy toward how the kids behave. Well I care, and IÂ’m not going to sit by idly.
So tell me, do you think I over stepped my boundaries and why?
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Posted by: caltechgirl at August 26, 2005 01:25 PM (ZqNBm)
I think as a community we have a responsibility for one anothers childre.....not to lay a hand on -em, but to make sure Mom and Dad (even if Mom and Dad are pigs)....know what they're kid is doing.
Wish you were in my town.
Posted by: ArmyWifeToddlerMom at August 26, 2005 01:35 PM (ChYa2)
We, as adults, have a responsibility to our kids and the kids in our community. Who else will they learn from?
Posted by: Oddybobo at August 26, 2005 01:48 PM (6Gm0j)
As usual - it all depends on the situation. You did what you thought you had to do - that's way better than doing nothing and then wishing you had acted.
Posted by: Teresa at August 26, 2005 03:38 PM (nAfYo)
So to answer your question, I think you did the right thing, but it doesn't matter what any of us think. You have your own code to follow, and I think your moral, or maybe your ethic was involved here.
Posted by: littlejoe at August 26, 2005 05:47 PM (gpXkb)
Posted by: Contagion at August 26, 2005 06:33 PM (M8Swz)
Posted by: Bou at August 26, 2005 07:55 PM (5JHEt)
UhOh. Damn -that sounds an awful lot like "I like you". Oops. ;-)
Posted by: Tammi at August 26, 2005 08:44 PM (t9d7U)
Posted by: Peter at August 27, 2005 09:40 AM (a/Lgq)
Posted by: littlejoe at August 27, 2005 11:35 AM (gpXkb)
As for being shot. Hell I can get shot by driving down the street anymore.
Posted by: Contagion at August 27, 2005 12:13 PM (Q5WxB)
Posted by: littlejoe at August 27, 2005 09:29 PM (gpXkb)
Maybe whatever needed settled, was getting settled. As long as nobody is getting maimed then let it go.
Posted by: Nick Badway at September 30, 2005 04:25 PM (ZVzhT)
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